1. The Name Game
When it comes to second marriages, invitation wording can be downright baffling. Perhaps your friends only know you by your married name? But using your first husband's surname just doesn't seem right to you. Bottom line: Use whichever moniker makes you feel most comfortable. If you're concerned your guests won't know whose wedding they've been invited to, give them a call.
2. What A Girl Wants
Don't think you have to wear a smart suit and slink off to a Justice of the Peace -- if you want a gold gown and a full-on church service, go for it. Let your parents and/or children in on your plans so they know what to expect.
3. A Fresh Start
Saying, "Well, the last time I did this..." can make your new love feel angry and hurt. Do everything differently this time, including picking a new first dance song. Your new life starts on this day -- start fresh!
4. Joining Hearts And Households
Be prepared to blend households as well as families: Talk about what you'll do with your stuff before you marry. Have a joint garage sale to get rid of extraneous clutter. If he really wants to display his toy car collection, but you can't stand it, give him his own personal space (away from you) to show it off. Keep in mind that the same goes for your collection of Elvis plates!
5. Get Creative
A second wedding gives you an opportunity to do unconventional things that are normally "not accepted" the first time around. Want to cut the cake first? Why not? Or, greet people with your husband-to-be at the entrance to the ceremony site. Have fun, make it your own, and make it special.
6. Let There Be Light
Make sure your children feel like they're a part of your new union. Consider lighting a unity candle all together at the ceremony. Or, for a funkier ritual, plan a unity sand ceremony. Assign a different color of sand for each child and blend them together in a hurricane lamp. Show your pride and place it on your mantle after the honeymoon.
7. Get With The Program
Family relationships can be confusing for guests. Make sure your program lists the key players and their relationships (i.e. John Doe, son of the groom).